Couples Worksheets

Couples Therapy Handouts

Relationship Green Flags (pdf)

Steps for Effective Relationship Repair (pdf)

Six Ways to be More Present in Your Relationships (pdf)

Relationship Promises (pdf)

Promises (pdf)

Build a Healthy Relationship (pdf)

Resolving Conflict in Intimate Relationship (pdf)

Do You Love Someone With Depression? (pdf)

Introverts vs Extroverts (pdf)

Fair Fighting Rules (pdf)

Emotional Hygiene (pdf)

Using Your Relationships for Spiritual Growth (pdf)

Will Couples Counseling Save Your Marriage? (pdf)

When Disagreements Arise (pdf)

Thriving Relationship (pdf)

Couples Therapy Handouts

Assertive Communication (pdf)

Boundaries (pdf)

Building Your Relationship (pdf)

Characteristics of a Healthy Belonging (pdf)

Characteristics of Healthy Relationships (pdf)

A Better Marriage (pdf)

Communnication (pdf)

Conflict Resolution (pdf)

Core Realtionship Fears (pdf)

Creating a Healthy Relationship (pdf)

Exercise - Map Your Go-to Network (pdf)

Fiery Relationships (pdf)

Five Myths About Relationships (pdf)

Healthy Relationship (pdf)

Healthy Secure Attachment (pdf)

Couples Therapy Assessments and Exercises

Questions for Deepening Emotional Intimacy (pdf)

Partnership Appreciations (pdf)

Lasting Love or Infatuation (pdf)

Couple Satisfaction Checklist (pdf)

Checklist for Relationship Health (pdf)

Individual Problem Checklist (pdf)

Relationship Inventory and Attachment Triggers (pdf)

Questions to Deepen Your Relationship (pdf)

Relationship Questions (pdf)

Attachment History Assessment (pdf)

Act Like a Man (pdf)

Couples Screening Form (pdf)

Relationship Happiness Scale (pdf)

One Page Definition of What a Relationship Is (pdf)

Questions for Couples (pdf)

Couples Therapy Assessments and Exercises

Checklist for Relationship Health (pdf)

Act Like a Man (pdf)

A.R.E Questions History (pdf)

Effective Communication (pdf)

Happiness-Hormones Poster 20X24 (pdf)

Couples Homework_2 (pdf)

Family Assessment Device (pdf)

A.R.E. Questionnaire II (pdf)

An Exercise to Enhance Your Relationship (pdf)

Communication Patterns Questionnaire Long Form (pdf)

Communication Patterns Questionnaire Short Form (pdf)

Creative Love (pdf)

Disagreements Worksheet (pdf)

Further Assessment of the Relationship (pdf)

Hold Me Tight Questionaire (pdf)

Couples Therapy Assessments and Exercises

An Exercise to Enhance Your Relationship (pdf)

Relationship Homework (pdf)

Effective Communication (1) (pdf)

Dyadic Adjustment Scale Couples (pdf)

Marital Disaffection Scale MDS (pdf)

Questions for Holding Onto the Marriage (pdf)

Relationship Intrapersonal Assessment (pdf)

Relationship Worksheet (pdf)

Resolving Conflict in an Intimate Relationship (pdf)

Restructuring Frustrations Exercise (pdf)

The Grief Cycle (pdf)

The Gottman 19 Areas Checklist for Solvable and Perpetual Problems (pdf)

Holland-Code-Assessment (pdf)

Hold Me Tight - 2 (pdf)

The Dance (pdf)

Couples Therapy Assessments and Exercises

Understanding Your Negative Cycle (pdf)

What Do You Want in a Relationship_ (pdf)

When We Are Not Getting Along (pdf)

Write a Letter Processing Feelings (pdf)

Play and Practice (pdf)

Processing Feelings (pdf)

Relationship Repair Assessment Exercise (pdf)

Short Form Communication Patterns Questionnaire (pdf)

Should I Try to Work It Out_ (pdf)

The Five Love Languages (pdf)

The Love Map 20 Questions Game (pdf)

The Overall Marital Satisfaction Questionnaire (pdf)

The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work (pdf)

Thinking About Reconciliation_ (pdf)

Twenty Questions for Couples (pdf)

Couples Therapy Assessments and Exercises

Twenty Questions for Couples to Spice up Your Relationship (pdf)

Marriage-Satisfaction-Survey (pdf)

Individual Problem Checklist (pdf)

Partner Qualities (pdf)

Thinking About Education to Strengthen Marriages (pdf)

Our Relationship (pdf)

Characteristics of Healthy Relationships Attitudes & Behaviors (pdf)

Processing Feelings (pdf)

Creative Love (pdf)

Couples Homework (pdf)

Boundaries Exercise (pdf)

How Should a Relationship Be? (pdf)

Couples Intrapersonal Self Care Questions (pdf)

Four Horsemen (pdf)

Relationship Enhancement Worksheet (pdf)

The Four Horsemen and How to Stop Them

The next time you find yourself in a conflict with your partner, try to avoid Gottman’s four horsemen of the apocalypse. These styles of fighting predict that a couple will break up, rather than stay together. Lute (2015) found that using mindfulness during an escalation by focusing one’s attention on the present moment, in a nonjudgmental way enables individuals to bypass feelings of overwhelmed due to their partner’s attachment activation. Gottman (1999) offers alternatives to the four fighting styles listed below. Instead, a gentle startup, expressing a culture of appreciation, and taking responsibility for one’s behavior are suggested to enhance a couple’s experience and establish a secure attachment style. Psychological self-soothing is a way for partners to reduce the impact of potentially damaging interactions. When partners are able to self soothe and soothe each other, a successful repair following a relationship rupture stabilizes the relationship.

The-Four-Horsemen (pdf)