Couples Therapy Worksheets and Handouts

Will Couples Counseling Save Your Marriage? PDF (pdf)

Using your Relationship for Spiritual Growth PDF (pdf)

Understanding Boundaries PDF (pdf)

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work PDF (pdf)

The 5 love languages PDF (pdf)

Steps for Effective Relationship Repair PDF (pdf)

Six Ways to be More Present in Your Relationships PDF (pdf)

Self Nurturing Activities PDF (pdf)

Securely Attached Partners PDF (pdf)

Rules for love PDF (pdf)

Resolving Conflict in Intimate Relationship PDF (pdf)

Relationship Promises PDF (pdf)

Relationship Enhancers PDF (pdf)

Relationship Conflict Resolution PDF (pdf)

Five Hidden Triggers in Relationships PDF (pdf)

Couples Therapy Worksheets and Handouts

Healthy Relationship PDF (pdf)

How to Stop Escalation During Conflict PDF (pdf)

Improving Your Relationship PDF (pdf)

Myths about Relationships PDF (pdf)

Our Relationship PDF (pdf)

Phrases for Partners PDF (pdf)

Promises PDF (pdf)

5 Myths about Relationships PDF (pdf)

7 Ways to Emotionally Connect With Your Partner PDF (pdf)

11 Things Women Should Know About Relationships PDF (pdf)

Act Like a Man (docx)

Write a Letter Processing Feelings (docx)

When We are Not Getting Along PDF (pdf)

What Do You Want in a Relationship? (docx)

Working Through Infidelity PDF (pdf)

Couples Therapy Worksheets and Handouts

Building your Relationship PDF (pdf)

Characteristics of a Healthy Belonging PDF (pdf)

Characteristics of Healthy Relationships Attitudes & Behaviors PDF (pdf)

Collaborative Problem -Solving PDF (pdf)

Common Anxious Thoughts PDF (pdf)

Common Avoidant Thoughts PDF (pdf)

7 Simple Ways To Say PDF (pdf)

Assertiveness PDF (pdf)

Before Becoming Sexually Intimate PDF (pdf)

Benefits of Assertiveness PDF (pdf)

Communication Styles PDF (pdf)

Conflict Resolution PDF (pdf)

Conflict Resolution II PDF (pdf)

Family Assessment Device PDF (pdf)

Characteristics of Healthy Realtionships PDF (pdf)

Couples Therapy Worksheets and Handouts

Anger and Grief PDF (pdf)

I Statements PDF (pdf)

Setting Healthy Boundaries PDF (pdf)

Why People Have Difficulty Being Assertive PDF (pdf)

Control Vs Boundary Statements PDF (pdf)

Core Realtionship Fears PDF (pdf)

Creating a Healthy Relationship PDF (pdf)

Creative Love PDF (pdf)

Cycle of Violence PDF (pdf)

David Richo Quotes PDF (pdf)

Do You Love Someone With Depression? PDF (pdf)

Does the Freeze and Flee Pattern Seem Familiar? PDF (pdf)

Effective Communication PDF (pdf)

Emotional Hygiene PDF (pdf)

Fiery Relationships PDF (pdf)

Couples Therapy Worksheets and Handouts

What Do You Want in a Relationship? (docx)

Understanding Your Negative Cycle (docx)

The Overall Marital Satisfaction Questionnaire PDF (pdf)

The Love Map 20 Questions Game PDF (pdf)

The Love Map 20 Questions Game (docx)

The Gottman 19 Areas Checklist for Solvable and Perpetual Problems (docx)

Short Form COMMUNICATION PATTERNS QUESTIONNAIRE (docx)

Restructuring Frustrations Exercise PDF (pdf)

Relationship Worksheet #2 PDF (pdf)

Relationship Repair Assessment Exercise PDF (pdf)

Relationship Questions (docx)

Relationship Inventory (docx)

Relationship Homework (docx)

Relationship History Assessment (docx)

Questions to Deepen Your Relationship (docx)

Couples Therapy Worksheets and Handouts

Questions for the Partner Who Had an Affair (docx)

Questions for Intrapersonal Development Couples #2 (docx)

Questions for Intrapersonal Development (docx)

Questions for Holding Onto the Marriage (docx)

Questions for Deepening Emotional Intimacy (docx)

Questions for Couples (docx)

One Page Definition of What a Relationship Is (docx)

Name Your Five Most Significant Relationships (docx)

Marital Disaffection Scale MDS-Client (docx)

Japanese Self Reflection (docx)

Hold Me Tight Questionaire (docx)

Essential Enneagram Test PDF (pdf)

Dyadic Adjustment Scale Couples PDF (pdf)

Disagreement Worksheet (docx)

Couples Therapy Worksheets and Handouts

Disagreement Worksheet (docx)

Couples Homework (docx)

Couple Screening Form (docx)

Communication Patterns Questionnaire (docx)

Checklist for Relationship Health (docx)

Attachments Styles and Relationships (docx)

Attachment Questionnaire (docx)

Attachment Inventory (docx)

Attachment History (docx)

An Exercise to Enhance Your Relationship (docx)

A.R.E. Questionnaire II (docx)

A.R.E Questions History (docx)

20 Questions for Couples (docx)

Holland-Code-Assessment (pdf)

Breaking Down Our Walls (docx)

The Four Horsemen and How to Stop Them

The next time you find yourself in a conflict with your partner, try to avoid Gottman’s four horsemen of the apocalypse. These styles of fighting predict that a couple will break up, rather than stay together. Lute (2015) found that using mindfulness during an escalation by focusing one’s attention on the present moment, in a nonjudgmental way enables individuals to bypass feelings of overwhelmed due to their partner’s attachment activation. Gottman (1999) offers alternatives to the four fighting styles listed below. Instead, a gentle startup, expressing a culture of appreciation, and taking responsibility for one’s behavior are suggested to enhance a couple’s experience and establish a secure attachment style. Psychological self-soothing is a way for partners to reduce the impact of potentially damaging interactions. When partners are able to self soothe and soothe each other, a successful repair following a relationship rupture stabilizes the relationship.

The-Four-Horsemen (pdf)