Stacy Judah MFT


Stacy Judah, MFT, is a researcher and clinical psychotherapist specializing in family therapy. 

Stacy has worked in both the inpatient and outpatient settings for over 20 years. She is the founder of Helm Counseling located in Hayward California. 

Stacy specializes in working with couples using EFT and experiential approaches.  

Stacy  works with children (2-18) using play and art therapy. 


Stacy conducts online therapy utilizing  cognitive behavioral and psychodynamic approaches to help heal the impact of  anxiety and depression, trauma, and relationship conflicts. 

"As I reflect on my professional experience for the past twenty years working in the clinical field, several insights emerge for me. I have worked with women who were experiencing incarceration. I have worked with dually diagnosed populations including:  developmentally delayed and the chemically dependent. I have worked extensively in both the inpatient and outpatient settings. I have professionally served the elderly, and I am currently serving the counseling needs of children and their families. The successful facilitation of groups with the mentally ill for the past twenty years has resulted in a beneficial and mutually rewarding outcome for my clients and myself. I strive to provide a best practice base for clients in need of holistic answers." Stacy Judah MFT

What are MFT's?

Marriage and family therapists (MFT's) are licensed mental health professionals who work with individuals, couples whether married or not, and families of all types. MFT's are required to have 3,000 hours of supervised experience following a Maters degree. 

Clinician's at Helm Counseling work with clients using experiential, cognitive behavioral, transpersonal, and psychodynamic approaches.

The Decision to Start Therapy

The decision to start therapy with a licensed professional is like setting out on an expedition to both rediscover old territories and to discover new territories. One set of questions therapy asks: 

  • "What is it like to be me now?"
  • "How do my past experiences affect who I am today? "
  • "What is getting in my way and preventing me from being the person I feel I can be?"

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~ Stacy Judah MFT ~

Therapy Resources

The Four Horsemen and How to Stop Them

The next time you find yourself in a conflict with your partner, try to avoid Gottman’s four horsemen of the apocalypse. These styles of fighting predict that a couple will break up, rather than stay together. Lute (2015) found that using mindfulness during an escalation by focusing one’s attention on the present moment, in a nonjudgmental way enables individuals to bypass feelings of overwhelmed due to their partner’s attachment activation. Gottman (1999) offers alternatives to the four fighting styles listed above. Instead, a gentle startup, expressing a culture of appreciation, and taking responsibility for one’s behavior are suggested to enhance a couple’s experience and establish a secure attachment style. Psychological self-soothing is a way for partners to reduce the impact of potentially damaging interactions. When partners are able to self soothe and soothe each other, a successful repair following a relationship rupture stabilizes the relationship. 

The-Four-Horsemen (pdf)